Planning the Funeral or Memorial Service
Planning is a vital element in the delivery of the special funeral service you require for you, your family member or loved one. Once the arrangement conference is completed our planning process starts. The information below briefly outlines the planning process of our personal funeral service from conference to the day of the funeral
In brief the steps in the planning process are:
Meeting the Celebrant/Family Meeting
Family organisational tasks and preparation
The funeral/memorial service day
Meeting the Celebrant/Family Meeting
The personal input of family members and close friends ensures the funeral is the celebration it should be. At the meeting with the family a list of family tasks will be prepared. It is important that these be addressed as early as possible, our experience has shown that if things are left to the last minute problems can occur. Early attention to these items avoids a disappointment on the day that may last a long time.
The family meeting usually cover the following items:
· Music selection and obtaining it
· Selection of a photograph or other item to display
· Order of service
· Specific personal touches
The input of the family for these items can help to make the funeral the very special individual service that it should be for each and every family member.
The more input that the family or close friend has into the planning of the funeral service the better. This personal involvement will ensure that the funeral service is as meaningful, personal and relevant to the life that it is celebrating.
This planning meeting will help the celebrant arrange the service the way that you require. All aspects will be discussed and decided upon, music, personal options, eulogies and order of service. After this meeting it is usual for family members to have a list of things that need to be done. It is important to note that the celebrant is available during the entire process of the funeral planning to assist in making the funeral or memorial the unique a special event that it should be.
Family organisational tasks and preparation
If you are travelling to the funeral by your own means leave in enough time to arrive at the funeral 20 minutes before the appointed commencement time of the funeral. Depending on the location of the funeral parking may be difficult so bear this in mind.
If you are bringing orders of service, flowers or something to the funeral so make sure you have it before you leave home.
The funeral/memorial service day
On the day of the funeral service your emotions may change many times. The circumstances surrounding the funeral will have a bearing on the range of emotions and number of changes you experience. It is important to identify that many of the people around you will also be experiencing the same emotions and changes but may also be in a different place emotionally at any given time.
If you are playing a role in the service take your time and if emotions overcome you as often does, just wait for a moment before going on. Remember that everyone present at the service is there to help and support each other at one of life’s most difficult times.
And afterwards
It is common, although not essential, for family and friends to meet and share refreshments and memories of your family or loved one immediately after the funeral.